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INFJ the recluse – a description

INFJ’s have very powerful creative emotions and willpower. This works for good or for ill. Due to their strong paranoid tendencies If focused on the negative it can quickly lead to hopelessness and depression through increased negative feeling/thinking.

I describe INFJ’s as people who do best when taking abstract arcane/non-tangible information and bring it to the masses in a systematic and comprehensive way. They are system educators and paradigm changers. I find it critical they be engaged in activities along those lines creating and disseminating information. All that vast creative knowledge inside of them needs to come out and be expressed or else the energy becomes bottled up with no outlet turning to nefarious tones.

We are here in this plane to learn to manage power and energy. It’s creative expression is a vital part in maintaining it’s flow.

INFJ’s tend to be very sensitive to criticism, yet have no problem criticizing the state of the world. They tend to be quite dissatisfied with life’s terms.

Many INFJ’s are actors and musicians due to their natural ability for intense structured emotion. Famous INFJ’s include Madonna, Beyonce, Keanu Reeves and Denzel Washington.

Teal Scott is also an INFJ and a good example of one using her talents correctly.

INFJ’s tend to have few friends and when they do it’s typically an ENFP. INFJs tend to be in one-up one-down relationships where they are on the up. Many times they are the leader of a small “tribe” or entourage of friends hanging at their coattails. They have difficulty handling conflict especially with their ideas and unless you agree with them on nearly everything and pay lip service to their sentiments they will likely ditch you quickly. They therefore have difficulty getting along with other strong personalities which is a real shame.

Collaboration is something they don’t due well, yet due to the nature of their big-picture interests is almost necessary if they want to begin realizing their goals. It’s a real paradox for them. Their emotions can be quite mercurial. HItler was an INFJ taken to an extreme. Many church pastors, guru’s, cult leaders are also INFJs.

In addition to being good actors and singers they also make good writers. The internet in many ways is a perfect place for them where they can express their creativity from their reclusive place on YouTube, blogs, e-books and forums.

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ENFP relationship issues – an analysis

Recently I have had a lot of friends who either are an ENFP or are in a relationship with an ENFP run into problems. It is my hope that this guide will give insight into the world of ENFPs and how it relates to everyone else.

I have close to a dozen ENFP friends and my younger brother is an ENFP as well. So i have been able to observe them first hand with my practical ENTJ mind to see what works for them and what doesn’t. Every personality type has blind spots/biases and it is very difficult for most to self examine and admit they have an issue in an area.

It seems like everyone knows an ENFP and they probably do, because ENFPs know everyone. This is somewhat surprising as they only make up about 3-4% of the population.

Strengths of  ENFPs

ENFPs are master social harmonizers. This is their single greatest strength and social harmony is something they value above all else, including themselves. ENFPs love the social challenge of trying to get different groups or cliques to harmonize with one another. ENFPs are very fun, loving people that love it when they can play a part in making everyone have a good time. Their knack for comedy to diffuse social tension is something they resort to quite often. They like to have everyone included and will often approach and bring in more shy people.

ENFPs genuinely value everyone’s diverse opinions. They seek common ground among all peoples another and use this as an effective strategy they use to bring about social harmony. Often ENFPs can resort to being a monkey and provide brief entertainment. ENFPs do well in improv comedy.

ENFPs morph into their social circles, adopting the mannerisms and the style of a given group in order to fit in and bring harmony. ENFPs socially thus are some of the most adaptable people out there and can simultaneously juggle multiple diametrically opposed social groups.

The only time you will ever see a ENFP get upset or angry is when they deem someone to be a major social harmony disruptor. At this point the full wrath of an ENFP will be felt, often by publicly trying to ostracize someone.

A girl ENFP in the world of girls is truly a gem. Femalekind is notorious for being hypergamous and gossiping and putting others down to raise their own value. A female ENFP typically does no such thing and is often a breath of fresh air when it comes to a catty female environoment. ENFP females thus will often have a lot of guy friends more so then other types.

Good career choices for ENFPs

ENFPs make good group leaders, youth leaders, pastors, socialites, human resource specialists, union leaders, team builders,  and especially group therapy facilitators. They genuinely want to help people, but can become “depressed” if their usual happy-go lucky methods don’t work. They think “love” can solve all the world’s problems. Many honestly believe it’s that simple…however sorry to say it’s often much more complicated. Something they tend to have a hard time accepting.

Weaknesses of ENFPs

Our weaknesses are our strengths turned up to loud. And this applies to every personality type.

An ENFPs greatest strength is their socializing ability, how could that possibly be a negative? In fact I believe most ENFps are truly miffed and confused when they run into relationship problems. They are so very successful at making people feel good about themselves and making friendships it truly baffles them when an intimate relationship goes sideways.

The first greatest problem an ENFP has is they are so focused on making other people happy they often forget about themselves. Health is one area where ENFPs will often compromise on themselves. And this ties in with one of their strategies of self-destructive social harmonizing.

You see ENFPs tend to be either relatively overweight or underweight tending to an extreme on either end. They use the very shape of their body to try and make people feel more at ease with theirs. Super skinny ENFPs often adopt meek/small body posture in order to be less intimidating. They purposely make themselves small so they can make others big so they will feel better about themselves.

Obese ENFP’s often very overweight adopt an opposite strategy. They take the giant teddy-bear approach and will try to make others feel better about themselves by consistently being fatter than them. Obviously this approach doesn’t work on everyone for there is always someone skinnier or fatter than you out there, but as long as they are skinnier or fatter than their primary social groups, ENFPs feel their strategy is effective.

Occasionally you will run into a fit and healthy ENFP. In those circumstances they  are usually involved in social circles that are interested in fitness. Like a biking club or a running club, or being everyone’s bro at the gym.

Other than their possible health compromises, ENFPs often compromise their personal emotional life or values. Trying to find out what an ENFP values independent of others can be truly a challenge because so much of what they value is directly tied to other peoples values.

Which brings me to another point. ENFPs can find themselves in toxic situations possibly a very dysfunctional family. In such a case they feel like they are the glue that holds the family unit together. In such cases an ENFP can become the abused and stay in abusive relationships. If there is conflict between parents an ENFP child will often try to come between them and be the sacrificial lamb in order to preserve a relationship that they deem necessary for their personal survival. ENFPs can and do support dysfunctional family relationships at great cost to themselves.

One of the greatest disillusions or false belief an ENFP holds is that they believe they can MAKE other people happy. An ENFP may not admit this but, if you look at their actions it only becomes very apparent. This I believe is one of their greatest weakness because happiness is something that comes from within and can’t be applied cosmetically.

Shallowness – ENFPs are paradoxically deep and shallow. It’s that they can be deep for short periods of time, but they naturally tend towards a “fun/light” state and don’t wan’t to be caught up in 1hr long deep discussions about a single emotional event. ENFPS roughly have a 5-10 min time limit when it comes to discussing things of an emotionally deep nature before they are worn out, and want to move on to something else fun and lighthearted.

Lighthearted may be a better description than shallow, but you can see how the two are linked. Due to the nature of opposites attracting ENFPs are often attracted to introverts that are feeling oriented. And this is the crux of most ENFP relationship problems. Introverted feeler types can spend half a day dwelling and working through a single emotional issue. This is particularly taxing to an ENFP and often an ENFP will opt out or get annoyed with so much deepness and go talk to another friend. This intern makes the introverted feeling partner left out in the cold on a limb. Then they may brood about it, and feel poorly misunderstood and unappreciated. Introverted feeling types need lots of time and care when it comes to their emotions. Often an ENFP just isn’t willing to do this to the extent that’s necessary.

This is where I believe ENFPs need the most amount of personal spiritual growth. They can learn from introverted feeling types the focus and concentration necessary to tune into the inner world and self reflect and work through emotions.

In a way ENFPs dupe many deep people (iNtuitive types). They definitely have the capacity to be deep and those who are deep get excited at the prospect of someone who can meet them at their level only to find an ENFP will leave them in the dust after a short period of time seeking more novelty.

Experience junky – ENFPs are forever seeking novelty. This makes them very diverse interesting individuals in the sense they know a little bit about everything but rarely a lot about any one thing. This can sometimes apply to their relationships as well, and it most defiantly applies to their social life. ENFPs love social novelty hence why they have so many diverse groups of friends, which they often keep separate because disharmony would result if they mixed them too much. Also ENFPs love travelling. They rush into all new experiences head first. This is great however it can be a bit much at times. ENFPs may find it hard to settle in on space or a given relationship before they are on to the next new thing. It can also impede their personal development in the sense that they can’t fully develop one thing if they are constantly rushing to the next shiny thing.

It may appear that they are running from the problems in their life and this often may in fact be the case if they become accustomed to it. Sitting down and introspecting for any length of time is generally quite difficult. They are often plugged in to some form of social connections, texting, tweeting, instagraming and face-booking. On fb they tend to have friends in the thousands.

 

 

 

 

Meeting the course facilitator

I was filled with feelings of excitement and a bit underlying apprehension as I went to meet the guy ( who I shall name Steve) who had along with his mom facilitated some great workshops I had recently taken. I was still unsure about him, as my initial impressions of him were not that great. He had this sorrowful painful look in his eyes that virtually every older male ENFP I have ever seen in my life has. Yet on the other hand during the workshops he exuded this loving presence that seemed so sure of itself. He had a level of social and inner confidence at a level I still personally have not quite achieved.

To be honest my intent was to discover what it is that he is searching for, for that is the distinct impression I get from him. Also the dichotomy of a degree of self awareness coupled with pain was intriguing.When I detect what appears to be genuine curiosity in people, it is something I get excited about. I feel that perhaps I have found a new friend. However I was quick to be proven wrong as I discovered he does not even believe in a soul, and therefore has no interest in the mysteries of the inner dimensions of the self that are non-physical. I was personally astounded seeing that he was heavily involved in the local new-age spiritual community. How could someone so involved in the “spiritual” community not even believe in “spirit” !?

I promptly informed him that his belief in “non-spirit” is something only held by the very minority of people on the planet being atheists and certain branches of Buddhism. Buddhism being confusing because some branches do believe in reincarnation so it’s a mixed bag as whether they believe in a soul or not.

I had come across this before as a previous ENFP friend of mine also very involved in “spiritual” things also decidedly does not believe in “spirit” the way it is conventionally believed. This Buddhist style belief seems to becoming quite popular among atheists who still want to retain some sense of an inner emotional meaningful world in the face of a cold mechanistic Darwinist world and an uncaring inanimate universe. Needless to say these people always seem to have tremendous inner conflict.

I also get the sense that they feel they are taking the moral high ground and feel they are not falling prey to such petty clearly illogical and irrational anthropomorphism. My cousin, an atheist, also had a similar style of thinking. In fact I think most atheists do. Anthropomorphism is the devil as it were.

However, I think these people are so terrified of their own mental power that should the mental realm have any tangible reality outside of the biochemical reactions in their head it would have cataclysmic consequences on the universe. Also these people tend to draw a hard line between what is “real” and “non-real” as if it were so absolute and objective that it was as clear as day. The non-real being the world of delusions driven by the fearful insecure self looking for comfort and support where there is none. This is in my opinion an out-dated style of thinking heavily dependent on a classical Newtonian world, which is subsequently teared to shreds by quantum physics.

These people without question all have experienced some sort of depression, and I would assume tried to comfort themselves with some kind of delusions but then felt that was disingenuous and that “real” people are “realists” and suffer without trying to cope and whatever “delusions/anthropomorphisms” that may bring with it. They form an interesting relationship to pain which in of-itself becomes a rather peculiar coping mechanism. They struggle with the difference between identity and their emotions, for what is the identity that is experiencing such dreadful emotions that have such a meaningful impact? An impact on what aspect of self if the self is not composed of emotion merely the “container” for them?

The arguments for or against the soul can go in circles. However I did have to inform him I had recently learned telekinesis a clearly “non-real/non-physical” power. I could feel the disbelief from him, so I asked him if he would like to learn and see for himself and that it is really quite simple and takes two hours of practice at the most. Which he promptly reported he had no interest in learning and wouldn’t for the rest of his life.

That kind of answer bespeaks of fear, a type of fear again that the inner “non-real” mental self should best be left alone for it is a dark and scary place that shouldn’t have physical effects on the exterior world. That there may be a non-physical aspect to the self that invalidates their entire worldview is scary, especially when you build your entire belief system on Newtonian foundations.

Throughout the conversations we passionately debated my belief system versus his, but here again I was faced with the feeling that he rejected virtually all of my most important beliefs. This feeling of rejection is getting old, and I was dismayed at myself at having attracted it yet again.

I also had issues controlling my excitement during the conversation as he gave me his deep soulful stare. I was struggling with this, as to how much should I control my excitement/activation or if I should never be that way and walk around with that uber-zen so at home in-myself Buddhist monk look. There is something so soothing and calming about being in that state to the self and others. It is so controlled and so anti-dramatic. It it the look of utter serenity and balance. BUT is that really the goal in life??? Just to be so fully present that there is virtually no ego or mind? What the fuck was the ego and mind then created for… just to distract us and test us? Soulful robot vs personality?

I feel like there is a happy medium, somewhere there between my high level excitement and his high level zen-ness. I don’t quite know where that is yet but I am getting closer.

The pitfall of empathy/persona morphing – survival strategy

I had a very strange dream last night, and talking with my gf about it figured some things out.

In my dream I was a gay guy driving a SUV while eating from a plate. I got out at the intersection and began walking and eating from the plate, because gay guys cant drive and eat at the same time. Then I got conflicted because I’m not sure if they can walk and eat at the same time either…

Last night my parents had a relative of mine over for dinner who was a pastor, and while eating I had this feeling of confrontation keep coming up. (I made this guy cry once…telling him his religion was phony) Anyways I often get the confrontational feeling when Im around my family at dinners.

Also last night I was shopping with my gf for a dress, and some gay guy was helping us. I became self aware that I was acting/behaving more gay when he was around my gf and I. Weird!

I do this a lot, I tend to act like the people I am around. It makes me very adaptable in social situations. I feel like I can get along with absolutely anyone! All I have to do is using my empathy skills put on their mindset like clothing.

Where does this come from?

My therapist figured out that when I was a kid that I hid who I was especially in front of my parents as a social survival mechanism. I actually morphed my persona/identity in order to be accepted and loved by my parents. For they did not love me or appreciate me for who I really was. My mom loves her personal created projection of me. My gf witnessed this first hand meeting my mother for a 1-on-1 coffee once.

This as a child made me very angry as well, but I bottled the anger often, until as a teenager it began bursting. Hence the feelings of confrontation when around religious people. It’s a proactive almost emotional response to protecting my identity. I have a lot of mixed feelings about it all. It’s still a rather confused mess for me in some ways.

In dreams I often find myself projected into people, acting as others, yet observing myself from the outside simultaneously often doing very bad things. Social deviance of some kind which leads to that survival anxiety rush. Social survival anxiety rush is the dominant feeling in my bad dreams/nightmares.

Being able to adapt in social environments definitely has it’s benefits but it’s too much and NOT beneficial when I start acting like a girl around girls.

I feel like I can adopt other peoples mindsets/worldviews/emotional reality quite well, however one thing I tend NOT to do, which ENFP’s tend to be good at, is I don’t match people’s energy very well. It might be an activation thing, I’m not sure, but it is an issue that a fellow pua pointed out to me once. My energy level is often way to high/excited and I need to tone it down a bit.

Another thing my gf pointed out, is I tend not to change how I act when I am around people I feel truly understand me and appreciate me for who I am. Which admittedly is somewhat rare. My therapist had me imagining I had parents that accepted me, which was one of the most difficult imagining exercises ever. (I wrote about this earlier on the forum here) So from an Somatic-therapy point of view it appears I have to go back to my childhood, Imagine my primary caretakers (or surrogate caretakers…much easier to imagine) loved me for who I actually was in order to release this social morphing survival-like anxiety emotional complex I have.

Family members – insecurities…plotting the trend

Recently I figured out that basically my entire family has the same fundamental issue that I have, except it’s manifest in different ways.

The underlying issue behind my social anxiety is a feeling of social insecurity an issue of survival tied to social relationships. I strongly believe that it may be linked to religious beliefs, in that one of the foundational pillars of Christianity is you relationship with christ/god. The problem is that God/Jesus does not actually physically talk back. Making the pseudo relationship very one sided. The wages of sin are death, or in other words social disconnection from God/christ in the pits of hell. Your very spiritual survival …the survival of your soul is contingent upon an imaginary relationship with christ/god. Quite an anxious proposition.

My gf noticed my parents appear to have a tendency to talk AT people, rather than having a genuine back-and-forth discussion with questions directed to truly understanding where a person was coming from. It would appear their ideal friends just listen to them. I think this may be something they have learned from going to church for 55+ years, where pastors just talk at a congregation without any interaction, couple that with the fact god/jesus doesn’t actually talk back.

However I digress, back to the insecurities.

My Dad – Has almost no friends, most likely because he doesn’t actually gauge and observe how people are responding to his “talking at them”. He genuinely wants friends, but generally doesn’t reciprocate. He is also quite dissociated from his own feelings and thus everyone’s else’s living a largely mental existence, which is not conducive to forming social relationships.

My Mom – Has an emotional vampire like demeanor, and tries desperately to form emotional attachments. Like a child who has lost all family and is looking for replacements. This often pushes people away because it scares them. She often uses emotionally charged drama in order to emotionally manipulate people into giving her attention.

My Sister– Couldn’t care about most other people and wants friends that mostly just serve her. Again the issue appears to be she isn’t willing to put into a relationship what she wants out of the other person. She learned at a very young age that being sick got her extra attention and things. So thus she uses an unlimited amount of health problems to logically manipulate people into giving her attention.

My Brother – Most socially adjusted (even more than me) due to him being an ENFP, but sometimes tries to hard by being goofy. This because he didn’t get enough attention as a kid. Both my parents were to busy, and goofy was his social survival attention getting tactic.

Me – I try to garner social support by being hyper-like interested in other people in hopes they will reciprocate. Or as my gf calls it “googley-eyed”. This can be a negative in that I often will give people too much attention often when they don’t deserve it, and it often has a underlying social emotional neediness sub-text. This causes me to become to outcome attached in social situations leading to social anxiety. I often thus care too much what other people think about me.

So thus underlying every single one of my family members greatest growth areas in life is a desire for social acceptance on a deep emotional level. A feeling of being taken care of, of being loved, of being nurtured. Instead it has turned into this fight for survival, an inherent sense of loneliness and disconnection at the fundamental level. Something I believe is quite common in our highly individualized society where we see ourselves as fundamentally apart from nature, as separate from god and each other.

I believe the shift has to come internally, a deep emotional realization that the universe loves you, takes care of you, provides for you and to relax into that feeling with all your soul. The social world need not be a fight for recognition and attention. Social acceptance should flow with ease. We should be so self-satisfied and complete and happy that we don’t believe that we NEED other people socially in order to survive, that everyone else is merely icing on the cake, a wonderful helpful addition, in this human experience. None of our relationships should be outcome attached, we should enjoy them for what they are in the present, enjoy people for who they are in the present, separate of whatever fanciful projections we might put upon them.

The mushroom trips I experienced, often gave me that sense… that the universe is intensely alive with creatures that see you as a part of them and take great joy in you, your uniqueness and individuality. Love is all there is….yet our mental complexes often, and some of our biological programming makes it hard for us to really feel that at times. Learning the key to unlocking our biological survival programming to transcend it, is to rise to a new level of creative experience.

The INFP/Mom & ENFP connection & Religious distrust of the world is a self-fulfilling prophecy

Had an awesome talk with my gf this morning and figured out some incredible things about myself.

I had a dream last night that involved a lot of generalized social anxiety & feelings of creepiness associated with it. The creepy feeling is re-current as well. In any case I began thinking about nervous system templating and why I have these social anxieties filled with dissociation/disconnect from people combined with a lot of personal inner emotional turmoil.

This is an area of life where unbeknownst to most people….even myself to a degree, where I wear 2 masks. One is the friendly courteous helpful towards strangers and people in general, and the other is a generalized feeling of distrust/anxiety/fear in regards to strangers/the world.

You see cognitively/intellectually I have created a schism with my emotions, where it appears on the outside I am kind helpful and socially well adjusted, and integrate with relative ease. I have BEHAVIORALLY trained myself to be like that, however on an emotional level i pour out wrathful judgments, disgust, disdain, contempt, distrust on the overwhelmingly vast majority of strangers/people/the world. There is a disconnect between my mental mind and my emotions. A big one….. which creates internal strife and disharmony which when I sleep and my cognitive mind subsides my emotions in regards to social situations all the negativity the fear/anxiety and judgments come pouring out like a damn bursting.

Now where did these negative core social beliefs/anxiety first come from? For that I look to my mother and oddly enough HER mother or my grandma. In Somatic-therapy there is something known as emotional neurological templating. It is something everyone does, usually off their primary caretakers. My grandma died when I was about 13, and from what I remember about her as a person was that she was seemingly in a state of perpetual misery, (she was an ISFJ) and had a great distrust for the world. She would read the newspaper daily and lament about how the world was going to hell. She had a general anxiety and fear of the world….socially speaking, and its no surprise my mom templated off her this fear/anxiety and then I templated it off my mother. The sins of the father get passed down, or in this case mothers as it most often is, since mothers care more for kids than dads, thus children template off them more. So in those terms the ills of societies (also the good things) ride on the female mothering kind.

My grandma was around a lot when i was growing up, considering she lived a 5min walk away from my home. She was over several times a week helping my mom and helping raise me. Both my mom and grandma had a religious driven fear and distrust of the world at large, an anxiety, a judgmental, a disdain, contempt. These two women were my dominant caretakers, growing up, and I templated off them emotionally. My dads way of dealing with most things is to dissociate intellectually from uncomfortable emotions, so i templated that off him as well. So this is my foundation/roots, in terms of my root core emotional beliefs. My best friend/cousin growing up, Tim, also was raised in a similar way and reinforced a lot of this.

As i grew up and began reading eckhart tolle, joseph murphy , channeled material, i cognitively/intellectually re-wrote a lot of those negative beliefs, so that to the common person I came across I was behaviorally fairly positive. However the emotional part was neglected/suppressed and my nightmares continued to get worse as I dissociated from my emotional body even more. There is a clear disconnect with the way i behave and appear in public, and how i feel deep down on the inside….to this day.

Now comes the cool part. My powers of attraction have brought me the tools I require, and to some degree haven’t realized it. My mom is an INFP. A hallmark of introverted, big picture feeling, is the negative emotions often get blanketed across the world and can create great internal despair. Or in my case GENERALIZED social anxiety/fear of people/world.

When I first met depressed-friend, he was in self imposed deep state of depression and felt there was something majorly wrong with the world and was ready to jump of a bridge. I identified with him strongly in terms that he represented in a new emotionally detached way the core way of being that both my mother and grandma had. Thus depressed-friend represented a reflection of aspects of myself to me, of parts of myself that were deeply repressed. As you may know depressed-friend is an INFP as well. I attracted depressed-friend (and vice versa, as always) in those terms in that it gave me a way of externally seeing what was going on in myself. I recognize that now. (side Note aspergers-friend, represented my intellectual side gone to an extreme)

The second INFP I attracted was sage-friend. Now sage-friend is in many ways the exact opposite of my mom, grandma. He inherently appears to trust the world, trust nature, trust himself, trusts his emotions, sees the positivety in most people, etc. Sage-friend in juxtapoistion offered me new paths off of which I could emotionally and neurologically template off of. As an amazing new friend he is helping me rewrite my core beliefs and assumptions about the world and strangers to positive ones. Funny thing is he probablly isn’t even aware that he is helping me in those terms.

The next INFP to come into my life in a huge way is my gf. Now when I met my gf she was recently coming out of a personal state of depression, in some ways she marked the transition from negative to positive. Her way of dealing with things emotionally, and the integrity behind those emotions combined with a generalized trust of herself/feelings and nature was a powerful new template for me. On my 2nd mushroom trip, where I went deep into a land of emotional social fear/anxiety, having my gf by my side to hold emotional trusting integrity was an incredible positive anchor point. Both my gf and sage-friend continue to this day to be my best sources to emotionally template off of, and rewrite these fear/anxiety core beliefs ingranined in me by my mother.They continue to be the most positive forces in my life and I hope I can return the favour in kind.

Other earlier INFPs that also provided a positive template was my flower-friend as well as photographer-friend.

Now come the ENFP’s. The people who seek harmony among people and seemingly harbor no negative fears/anxieties/feelings/judgments to society at large. These people have recently also been my best friends and played an integral role in my life and helping me reprogram myself. They are my brother Anthony, South africa-friend, tribal drummer-friend, kiteboarder-friend, gypsy-friend, buddha-friend, class mate ukie & Filipino. These people are very good at trusting and being positive/non-judgmental of people at large, and offer me massive benefit and emotional learning opportunity. I need to be more empathetic with them and template off them more as well.

I find it utterly amazing that most of my dominant friends over the last while are INFP’s & ENFP’s (who combined account for only 4% of the population) all there to help me create new emotional paths/beliefs within myself. The power of attraction is awe stunning. My task now is to really empathize with these people and to adopt their emotional states and integrate them into myself. I have all these amazing teachers in my life and haven’t appreciated them enough.

Another strategy my therapist had, was for me to imagine as if say my mother and father/grandma had raised me in a different way, one that had the attributes i desired. At first i thought it was not possible, but he insisted I do it. This process rewrites your past, emotionally neurologically and can help you rewrite your beliefs. In effect changing the past as Seth puts it, in order to empower yourself in the present going forward.

All these people I have attracted to myself provide positive anchor points. They help me create peace within myself, to trust more and judge less. To be emotionally relaxed with people and the world, that I may bring out the best in them, by bringing out the best within me.

Taking this one step further as you know I have been having issues with chronic fatigue. It’s as if my body & mind WANT to go to sleep, so that the intellectual/logic part turns off, so that I can dream, and release these negative emotions, and also so that they can inform me about what’s going on in myself, so that i may fix it.

My new belief is: I TRUST MY EMOTIONS, I TRUST MYSELF, I TRUST THE WORLD, I TRUST ALL THE PEOPLE IN THE WORLD. Relax and feel into that!

p.s. I trust my dreams.