My mother had been going for therapy ever since I was a child. I had occasionally seen some of her therapists (4 different ones my life, each 1x) because she insisted and since it helped her soooo much she thought it should help me as well. Needles to say most of the therapists thought I was perfectly normal, and really couldn’t offer me any help. I didn’t really have any problems either though. I had lived to me a very normal uneventful, non-traumatic life.
Recently my mother had gotten interested in a specific modality of Somatic based therapy and she thought it was the shit and began training in it. Based on my 4x previous experiences with “therapy” I was very, VERY skeptical. I had declined a couple of times already. But this guy was her therapist was also a trainer who trains therapists and went to Harvard so I decided to give it a shot. My mom thought it could help me with the Chronic Fatigue syndrome I had been suffering from for over 10 years. I had also been having nightmares, and anxious dreams that I would have loved to remedy.
So fast forward, to the session. I tell the therapist the thing about CFS, and my anxious dreams. His question is how is my relationship with my parents? I say “fine” we go out for dinner weekly and get along relatively well. All true. Guess this was not the answer he was looking for.
Then my therapist tells me something shocking: “I think your main problem is that your parent’s don’t love for who you are.” Excuse me!?? What the fuck does have to do with any of my issues?
Now he had me hooked, not only was he knocking my parents which delighted me a bit, because they had recommend him and told me they would pay his $175 charge out rate to eternity for me, he thought they were somehow magically at the root of my issues.
He then had me doing exercises imagining I was a tiger and mauling my mother. He told me I had problems feeling anger, and this was a serious issue and a repressed emotion I had to bring out.
God, if only my Mom knew what this guy was telling me and having me do. she would not approve. LOL!
I still didn’t understand how this related to my issues I wanted resolved, however he had brought up other perhaps more important issues I just wasn’t aware of. The rest is history.
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