Figured out two cool new things that are facilitating some pretty important belief changes within myself over the last few days.
Going through some game material and came across this quote:
“The fundamental basis of attraction is you are more invested in your opinion of yourself than other people’s opinion of you.” – Nic K
Growing up I was pretty much taught the exact opposite. In the church community I cared very much, as did everyone else what people thought of me. Other peoples opinions mattered, often more so than my own about me. It makes sense when you are taught that God/Jesus is watching your every move, your every thought and that he is judging you every moment on your life. The eternal salvation of your soul rests very much on what an external figure’s opinion of you is. It’s no surprise this very same dynamic is thus replicated among society…it ties in with shame.
Probably the big kicker is often we are very concerned about our parents opinion of us. When we are young children we deem it as important to our survival, and it to some degree it is. However as we grow older, instead of subconsciously holding onto that belief, it is important to abandon it, so we can be self empowered creatures, not chain bound to the opinions of those who brought us here. This is growing up, this is maturity. You might be financially separate form them, but are you emotionally? They could even be dead and you may still hold onto the beliefs they have instilled in you…trying to live up to them. Who’s standards are you really living by? What ARE you standards? Where did they come from?
So I came up with a new belief and that is: “My opinion of myself is the ONLY important one.”
When it comes down to it, it almost seems paradoxical, but there is a very subtle line here. You are accountable to yourself only. It doesn’t matter whatever other people think of you, as long as you are acting in accordance with your highest best self. You are your own worst judge, and really ultimately when you die/reincarnate your ONLY judge. Karma isn’t forced upon you, it is something you choose, in order to grow all by yourself.
Your actions and their effectiveness among other people, your ability to communicate effectively, all the power lies with you in how you articulate yourself. And this leads to my 2nd discovery.
Self-awareness is the key to being more aware of others. I realized that most of my life I am walking around projecting what I think about people on them. I am listening to them, but I am listening more to my projection of them, than really them. It is like I have created my own bubble world, which I am not even a part of.
I started by becoming very aware of what my hands and arms were doing. This really brought me into my body. Then I became aware of all my physical body sensations, then sounds and the visual sharpness of reality. I turn to the feeling sensing core of my being and became super aware of my body, and my ability to be more aware of it instead of just my head and mind/ and all its mental projections. I realized by using this consciousness shift in perception by being more aware of myself, I was more aware of the emotional state of others, as well I felt much more empowered. My intelligence flows more freely. Often my mind and thoughts go to fast for my body, but now everything is more in sync.
I feel like I am living more in real reality rather than the fantasy I have created & concocted in my head/mind. There is much more peace here, the world seems happier, more alive.
At first I thought abandoning the mind for the body like that would stop all thoughts, and I would lose perception of my surroundings. I was baffled at first. But I realized I can rely on another deeper more physical intelligence, more grounded, which is actually far more intelligent than my projecting mind alone.
Heroic Mastery 